‘Cocktails with the Calendar Girl’ tonight at Cafe Cabernet

November 20, 2008 – 2:36 pm

Let’s get this party started!!

Tonight’s CWCG will coincide with a wine tasting and soft opening of the new Wine Cellar at Café Cabernet. Their party is from 5-7 p.m. and our party begins at 7 p.m. If you can’t make it out to the bar, visit Tallahassee.com at 7 p.m. and look for the Mogulus video right there on the home page.

Our guests include a few handsome Marines who will be promoting Toys for Tots, Wendi Cannon from Off Road Innovations, Jenn Hoesing from Mission San Luis, and a few other surprises.

If you happened to catch any of last week’s show, you’ll know that anyone who shows up for the party could very well end up on camera. I am always happy to chat up the locals and barflies, which makes for some, ahem, interesting encounters.

Now, we’ll be taking off next week for the Tofurkey holiday, but we’ll return on December 4 for a very special show at deVine Wine. Why is it so darn special? Because December 4 is my birthday! Woo hoo!

Wii Fit says I’m fat but I love it anyway

November 20, 2008 – 2:10 pm

When I first saw the Wii, I proclaimed, that is the most awesomist video game concept ever. For once, a gaming console even my parents can play. A console that isn't about war craft and bionic thumbs and Simon like reflexes (you know, the game with the flashing colors. For kids.)

The video aficionado of our home of course couldn't live without one. And for his birthday, my parents fulfilled his wishes and we got a Wii.

It was fun at first. I purchased "Pirates of the Caribbean" as well as "Rayman Raving Rabbids," a fun game of skill I'm all to familiar with after playing it on our Playstation 2.   

We Wii bowled, got jiggy with the Rabbids and swashbuckled with the best of them, and it was fun. But when the fiance wanted to go get a Wii Fit, I couldn't help but think, great, one more expensive piece of equipment that we really don't get any use out of. 

And it might turn into that.

But since that flat plastic board entered our house last night, I just can't get enough.

I love it. I've Wii yogad, Wii hula hooped (which really kicks some calorie butt), Wii skiied, Wii danced and Wii got some exercise. I'm even challenging the fiance because I'm whipping him at all the games (yeah, this girl can do some hula hooping.)

What a great concept.

Finally, someone said, these kids aren't going to just stop playing video games and go outside. So lets let them play and get a workout while doing it.

Something has to balance out the Cheetos and Oreos that go so well with video gaming. 

Will I end up losing all my excess? Probably not. I mean, I swam for an hour every morning for months and my weight didn't budge. I doubt 30 minutes pretending to walk a tight rope will really do anything. 

But, then again, maybe it will. Either way, it is one more fun way to get moving. And there is nothing wrong with that.

Don’t miss live blog tonight with MTV executive

November 20, 2008 – 1:05 pm

Everyone in media right now is scrambling for the best way to stay relevant in consumers' lives.

Although I work for a newspaper, I know people don't consume news the way they once did. That's why on election night, I was sitting in front of a camera streaming live video and answering readers' questions via a live blog at Tallahassee.com.

Transforming the way we disseminate news is a topic driving more discussions and decisions in our newsroom every day. Marketing and advertising professionals are also looking for ways to reach the next generation of consumers.

Tonight, Tallahasseeans have the opportunity to hear from someone on the forefront of digital media. The American Advertising Federation in Tallahassee and Comcast are sponsoring a talk by MTV Digital Account Executive Jeremy Delaplane at Paradigm, 115 W. College Ave.

Because Delaplane is discussing digital media, it seemed befitting for us to cover his talk digitally. So, beginning at 6:30 p.m., we'll host a live blog with updates from Paradigm. I'll be in the live blog, posting information about what Delaplane has to say, and answering questions from our readers.

Delaplane will discuss "Generation P" and how to reach them. In a New York Times article, Judy McGrath, chairman of MTV Networks, introduced “Generation P” as “young adults who expect to produce and program their own media.”

Members of this generation aren't passive consumers of media. They expect media to be interactive, and I'm hoping Delaplane's discussion will be an opportunity to learn more about reaching these individuals.

So please join us. The blog will be on our homepage at Tallahassee.com.

Click here to read a Q&A that staff writer Amanda Nalley did with Delaplane in advance of his Tallahassee stop.

This is it … Meet the Posters Day has arrived

November 20, 2008 – 6:36 am

UPDATED: The party was fun. The posters were cool. Some even allowed us to take their pictures, which I posted to this site via pixelpipe and flickr.

Thanks to oldnfeeble, screen name, GrimWriter, samatha's mom, Love and Only Love, Wolfvanette, Tally Watchdog, Robrod, 8675309, Rio1980 and Deeply Concerned for showing up. Hope I didn't miss anyone.

To see the photos we took with my iPhone, go to this link.

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OK, so today is a busy, busy day. But an exciting one, too, I hope. Just not too exciting.

Two meetings starting before 9 a.m. One a community board meeting – or at least a committee of the board. One a news-planning meeting.

Then at noon there’s one that is a little historic – not in the BIG sense of historic – but, you know, historic as in new and different. (Maybe I made that definition up, but we've never done anything like this before.)

Anyway, a bunch of people who post to my blog regularly are coming over to our place for lunch. These are people I don’t know – or at least don’t know if I know them – even though I have been talking – in the digital sense – with them for months, maybe years. At least I assume they are people. We’ll see.

Meeting with them is something I’ve wanted to do for a while, but the opportunity presented itself as my “punishment” for wrecking the economy by reporting the news. Don’t ask: Just understand the thinking that got the original messenger killed.

Blaming the media for causing the bad news we report, says national conservative columnist and FSU alumna Kathleen Parker, is a little like blaming the guy who turned on the lights for a roach problem.

Anyway, it was all a good excuse to get my “blogging community” together – at least a few of them and presumably those who live locally. One of the posters, GrimWriter, organized it and has a list of who's coming; they are all using their digital profile names on their name tags.

If you’re not already on the list, don’t worry: We’ll do something else another time, maybe a picnic in the spring.

Depending on your perspective, this is either like inviting the fox into the hen house or the fox inviting the hens into the den.

Anyway, it will be lunch and conversation, and maybe we’ll like each other more or less depending on how it goes. At a minimum they’ll know that I’m not exactly 6-foot-2 and 190 pounds of pure good looks, overflowing intellect and charm, no matter what I’ve written or whose picture I’ve posted in the past.

It’s kind of like lying on your resume: not a good idea to disguise the “true” you unless you work for a 1-800 dating service – which, despite our industry’s hard times, we haven’t yet tried as a revenue stream. You never know.

Just lunch and conversation, and the lunch is from our cafeteria – some sandwiches – and whatever dishes the blog posters bring.

We’ll probably have a news intern as the official taster. They’d do it, too; college kids are always looking for free food.

Anyway, it’ll be fine. Nothing to worry about. We did rent a few off-duty federal TSA officers and their air-tight airport security systems just to be sure, though. (Just kidding. Insert happy face here.)

Anyway, I’m rewarding myself for doing this by going to both the women’s and the men’s FSU basketball games tonight. The women’s game starts at 6 p.m. followed by the men at 8 p.m. One ticket gets you into both, or just bring a couple of cans of food stuff, and they’ll let you in.

I’ve got tickets – I’m a season-ticket holder for the women – for both games and will bring some canned goods, too.

Assuming I survive lunch with no life-threatening injuries, cuts and bruises or broken body parts, I’m going to be feeling a little extra generous, if I'm feeling anything at all.

 

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So you wanna be a journalist?

November 19, 2008 – 3:45 pm

Throughout my years as a journalist, I've realized that many readers don't understand what we do or why we do it.

When I meet people, they often ask me questions about the media and why we do things certain ways. I always try to answer as honestly and clearly as possible because, believe it or not, we have reasons for just about everything we do.

That photo on page 1A was put in that particular place for a reason. That headline font was also chosen for a reason, and that quote in the story, it too, was chosen to serve a specific purpose.

Tonight, I'm speaking to a class at Florida A&M University about interviewing techniques, an art that good journalists master.

Below is an interviewing guide I wrote for the students, and I share it with you, dear reader, so that you may understand what we do and how.

(Also, I spent some time on this guide, so I figured I should turn it into a blog).

Here goes ...

Before the interview
Building rapport and establishing mutual respect is part of a good interview. If you don’t prepare, the person you’re interviewing will notice and think you didn’t care enough to do the background work. They’ll question your competence and may be less likely to talk freely.

- Find out what has already been written. Start with a general Web search.

- Search the archives of local news organizations.

- Talk to colleagues and other people in the community who may know the person or topic you’re covering.

- If you’re researching something complex, for example science or technology, make sure you’re familiar with the lingo.

- Once you know what has been written, look for new ways of advancing the story.

- Write a list of questions to get the interview going, and tailor your questions to what your audience will want.

During the interview
A good interview is a conversation; it involves give-and-take-between the interviewer and the interviewee.

- Being interviewed will make most people nervous, so put them at ease. If you act awkward, your subject will do the same. Smile, project confidence and be friendly.

- Look for a conversation starter – a family photo, a book that you’ve read, a painting on the wall. Try giving a compliment, but make sure it’s genuine.

- Know what you need to get out of the interview, but don’t be afraid to let the person take you off track. (You may get some good information you weren’t expecting.) If you get too far off track, take control of the interview and get back on topic.

- Be observant. Get details that would make a story come alive. What’s in this person’s office? What is he/she wearing? How does he/she interact with others?

- Start with easier questions to break the ice. If you’ve got a difficult question, save it for later in the interview.

- Be polite and courteous, even if your source becomes defensive. Be honest. You might say, “Police Chief Smith, I understand that this is a difficult situation facing your department, but I want to give you an opportunity to tell your side of the story.”

- If you don’t understand something, say so. DO NOT try to write an article from an interview you didn’t fully understand. Stop and politely say, “I’m sorry, could we back up,” or “Would you mind explaining that again? I want to make sure I get it right.”  If the interview is over, call the person back to clarify.

- Take good notes. Even if you use a recorder, it will be easier and faster to write an article from your notes. Develop your own shorthand. (Think text messaging here).

- Circle good quotes or information as you’re taking notes so that when you go back and read the notes, those topics will jump out.

- At the end, ask the person if there’s anything you left out or anything that he or she wants to add.

After the interview
Now that you’ve got all this information, what the heck do you do with it? You have to organize it.

- Read your notes, organize them into categories and mark each category. For example, put a star beside information you definitely want to use or highlight it in a particular color. Put an X beside information you don’t think you’ll need.

- Completely rewriting your notes is usually a waste of time. I would only recommend this if there’s going to be a long period of time between the interview and when you actually write the story.

- If you think of something you left out or something you don’t understand, call the person back.

- If you’re still not clear, it’s OK to write the article and read to the person over the phone any information you want to double check. But be careful with this: the goal isn’t to get the person’s permission to publish, and don’t allow someone to think you’ll change a story just because he or she doesn’t like it.

Other topics
- Going off the record – Make sure you define what it means because it can mean different things to different people. Is it OK for you to use the information as long as you don’t connect it to the person? Or, is he or she asking you not to use the information at all? Also, know your company’s ethics policy. Gannett, for example, rarely uses unnamed sources and only with the permission of the executive editor or publisher.

- Evasive sources – If a person refuses to be interviewed, give him or her every opportunity to return your call. In your phone messages, state plainly, but courteously, “Mr. Jones, I have a 4:30 p.m. deadline today. If I don’t hear back from you by then, I will have to write that you were unavailable for comment or didn’t return repeated phone messages.”

- Paraphrasing – Paraphrasing is a useful tool, but be careful. Don’t overreach. Don’t take information out of context. Don’t make paraphrases more dramatic than what the person actually said. Stick to the person’s original intent.

- Somebody says you misquoted them – Keep your notes. They are your legal record of the interview, and notes could be entered as evidence in a lawsuit to protect you. Listen carefully to what the person says is wrong in the article. Recheck your notes. If you messed up, apologize and correct the error as soon as you find out about it.

Rebeccah Cantley is local desk editor for the Tallahassee Democrat, where she is in charge of daily local news for print and online. She has 10 years experience in journalism including various reporting and editing positions. Her experience includes covering local and state government, police and public safety, and higher education. In 2005, she was selected as a World Affairs Journalism Fellow by the International Center for Journalists and completed a reporting project on the recovery of South Sudan after decades of civil war. Her multimedia coverage of the December 2004 tsunami in Indonesia won a Well Done award from Gannett Co. Inc.

‘The Facts of Life’ are all about me

November 18, 2008 – 5:43 pm

Do you ever wonder how it is possible that you can retain so much useless pop-culture knowledge in your brain, but you can’t remember to put a cover sheet on your TPS reports? Yeah, I don’t understand how our little brains work, either.

For some unknown reason, a dear friend and I began talking about ’80s sitcoms last night, and I mentioned how much I loved “the Facts of Life.” He was trying to remember Blair’s last name and blurted out “Underwood!”

“Oh my god!” I laughed so hard I almost peed. “It’s Blair Warner! Blair Underwood is that hot black guy Miranda hooked up with on ‘Sex and the City.’”

I then proceeded to rattle off the rest of the cast. “Charlotte Rae played Mrs. Garrett; Kim Fields was Tootie; Lisa Whelchel was Blair.” I paused. “And Nancy McKeon as Jo.” Then I got stuck and I couldn’t for the life of me remember who played Natalie. (I eventually had him look it up on my phone and tell me her initials. As soon as he said M.C., I shouted “MINDY COHN!”)

Now for the best part: My friend said, “Do you think you could sing…,” but before he could finish his sentence, I had already launched into my best rendition of the theme song. “You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life, the facts of life.” And I didn’t stop there. Oh no. I kept on going and going. This was my favorite part: “When the world never seems to be living up to your dreams, and suddenly you’re finding out the facts of life are all about you – you-ooh-ooh-ooh-oooooooh.”

At this point, he was laughing so hard that he almost peed himself. He had no idea that I was such a fan of the show. Dang. I used to love that show. Heck, I didn’t even know what a bong was until Mrs. Garrett told me on that infamous episode.

Wow. Look at all the fun you can have by learning “the Facts of Life!”

Now, go ahead and tell me some of your favorite ’80s sitcoms. I know that you must have at least one dirty little secret you can share with the rest of us.

‘The Facts of Life’ are all about me

November 18, 2008 – 5:43 pm

Do you ever wonder how it is possible that you can retain so much useless pop-culture knowledge in your brain, but you can’t remember to put a cover sheet on your TPS reports? Yeah, I don’t understand how our little brains work, either.

For some unknown reason, a dear friend and I began talking about ’80s sitcoms last night, and I mentioned how much I loved “the Facts of Life.” He was trying to remember Blair’s last name and blurted out “Underwood!”

“Oh my god!” I laughed so hard I almost peed. “It’s Blair Warner! Blair Underwood is that hot black guy Miranda hooked up with on ‘Sex and the City.’”

I then proceeded to rattle off the rest of the cast. “Charlotte Rae played Mrs. Garrett; Kim Fields was Tootie; Lisa Whelchel was Blair.” I paused. “And Nancy McKeon as Jo.” Then I got stuck and I couldn’t for the life of me remember who played Natalie. (I eventually had him look it up on my phone and tell me her initials. As soon as he said M.C., I shouted “MINDY COHN!”)

Now for the best part: My friend said, “Do you think you could sing…,” but before he could finish his sentence, I had already launched into my best rendition of the theme song. “You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life, the facts of life.” And I didn’t stop there. Oh no. I kept on going and going. This was my favorite part: “When the world never seems to be living up to your dreams, and suddenly you’re finding out the facts of life are all about you – you-ooh-ooh-ooh-oooooooh.”

At this point, he was laughing so hard that he almost peed himself. He had no idea that I was such a fan of the show. Dang. I used to love that show. Heck, I didn’t even know what a bong was until Mrs. Garrett told me on that infamous episode.

Wow. Look at all the fun you can have by learning “the Facts of Life!”

Now, go ahead and tell me some of your favorite ’80s sitcoms. I know that you must have at least one dirty little secret you can share with the rest of us.

Welcome to the (almost) wedding blog

November 18, 2008 – 10:39 am

Dear readers,

I'll try not to bore you too much with wedding nonsense, but I must inform you, from here on out I will try to focus at least a portion of my blog-a-rooney to the walk down the aisle.

I want to share this experience with you. And I'd like your advice when it comes to some of the many, many difficult decisions I'll be making.

As you've already read, everything has not be easy.

But what you haven't read about is all the things we have accomplished.

The ring is insured. The date is set (Oct. 10, 2010. That's right. 10/10/10. That is a Sunday. It's also Columbus Day on Monday. Is that going an OK day to get hitched? We are going for a beach wedding.)

The announcement ran this Sunday. Visit it here.   

(By the way, the fiance hates that photo.)

I've memorized where the flaws in the diamond are and have admitted to liking them because then I can tell the difference between mine and someone elses. (How that will come in handy, I have no idea.)

And, most importantly, the commitmaphobe that lingers inside of my romantic heart has already pounced. What can I say, if ever there was going to be a case of cold feet, it would be lingering in my shoes. It is just who I am. 

It wouldn't matter who I married, the idea of committing makes my stomach turn. (This is the same reason I would almost dump the fiance every time we moved. The commitmaphobe saw an out and kept trying to take it.) What happens when the commitmaphobe takes over? It usually starts with me freaking out because he didn't do the dishes when I asked him to. Or he didn't say anything romantic that day. The next thing you know, the commitmaphobe fast-forwards my life 10, 20 years down the road and I start freaking out even more. What if I end up with dish pan hands because that jerk won't do the freakin dishes? What if there is someone that is a better fit for me? What am I doing??? WHAT AM I DOING??

Luckily, the fiance understands me. He knows my freak out pattern. So, I tell him I'm sorry for being such a crazy person but that the commitmaphobe has been taking over. It isn't that I don't want to marry him, its just who I am. And then everything is all better.

Smile!!! He is the one for me. 

Now, how to decide the size of the wedding? How to get the fiance more involved in the planning? Is a Sunday wedding day a good or bad day? Any suggestions, tips? All are welcome.

Any advice on how to get over cold feet? Is there anything else I should be worried about with my ring?

 

 

Welcome to the (almost) wedding blog

November 18, 2008 – 10:39 am

Dear readers,

I'll try not to bore you too much with wedding nonsense, but I must inform you, from here on out I will try to focus at least a portion of my blog-a-rooney to the walk down the aisle.

I want to share this experience with you. And I'd like your advice when it comes to some of the many, many difficult decisions I'll be making.

As you've already read, everything has not be easy.

But what you haven't read about is all the things we have accomplished.

The ring is insured. The date is set (Oct. 10, 2010. That's right. 10/10/10. That is a Sunday. It's also Columbus Day on Monday. Is that going an OK day to get hitched? We are going for a beach wedding.)

The announcement ran this Sunday. Visit it here.   

(By the way, the fiance hates that photo.)

I've memorized where the flaws in the diamond are and have admitted to liking them because then I can tell the difference between mine and someone elses. (How that will come in handy, I have no idea.)

And, most importantly, the commitmaphobe that lingers inside of my romantic heart has already pounced. What can I say, if ever there was going to be a case of cold feet, it would be lingering in my shoes. It is just who I am. 

It wouldn't matter who I married, the idea of committing makes my stomach turn. (This is the same reason I would almost dump the fiance every time we moved. The commitmaphobe saw an out and kept trying to take it.) What happens when the commitmaphobe takes over? It usually starts with me freaking out because he didn't do the dishes when I asked him to. Or he didn't say anything romantic that day. The next thing you know, the commitmaphobe fast-forwards my life 10, 20 years down the road and I start freaking out even more. What if I end up with dish pan hands because that jerk won't do the freakin dishes? What if there is someone that is a better fit for me? What am I doing??? WHAT AM I DOING??

Luckily, the fiance understands me. He knows my freak out pattern. So, I tell him I'm sorry for being such a crazy person but that the commitmaphobe has been taking over. It isn't that I don't want to marry him, its just who I am. And then everything is all better.

Smile!!! He is the one for me. 

Now, how to decide the size of the wedding? How to get the fiance more involved in the planning? Is a Sunday wedding day a good or bad day? Any suggestions, tips? All are welcome.

Any advice on how to get over cold feet? Is there anything else I should be worried about with my ring?

 

 

A nice little Saturday with the ex-mom-outlaw

November 17, 2008 – 12:19 pm

After an exhausting week, I wanted nothing more than to sleep in a bit later on Saturday. But if someone is offering to take me to the IHOP, I’m so there – even if the offer is from my ex-boyfriend’s mom who was in town for homecoming and preparing to march with the alumni band.

While I was up and ready to go by 9 a.m., the baby kangaroo was nursing a hangover and was keeping me from my pancakes. Not cool.

The baby kangaroo’s mom, on the other hand, is way cool. I’ve known her longer than I’ve known her son, and even though she voted for McCain, she’s still my friend. She is a hip, hip lady, and during this recent trip she proved that she is even bawdier than me. (I know! How is that possible?)

It started on Friday night when I ran into her at the Downtown GetDown. She looked fantastic, and I told her so. “Well, now that Joey’s 21, I am out there, again!” Yep, she is on the prowl and ready to party.


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The baby kangaroo and his mommy

Contrary to what the baby kangaroo tweeted, we were not dragged to the Downtown MarketPlace after our pancake breakfast. It was a nice, cool fall morning, so why not wander around the market during its waning weeks? I received a shout-out from a vendor who recognized me from my sassy Calendar Girl photo, which was cool, and I found a cute pickle ornament for my Chrismakkuh tree.

Yes, a pickle.

It is some sort of German urban myth, but the idea is that you hide the pickle (tee hee) on the tree, and whoever finds the pickle on Christmas morning receives an extra gift.

As I’m telling the mom this story, she starts cracking up. “Well, I’m familiar with a different kind of hide-the-pickle game,” she chuckles as the baby kangaroo is turning bright red. “Um, that’s your mom,” I said.

And then she starts reading the tag on the ornament. “Oh, look! It says that it’s mouth blown in Poland! Mouth blown!” Wow. She managed to out-bawdy me.  

I paid for my pickle and a Christmas cactus and then we wandered over to another booth that had a collection of silly magnets. “Here’s one for you,” the mom said to me, as she held up a magnet that read “Kinky as a cheap garden hose.” Nice. Then she found another one for me: “Friday is casual sex day.” My goodness, she was feeling spunky! I bet she was a hoot at band camp with her piccolo. (I hear she has her way with woodwinds.)

What’s really funny is that the mom and I had to bully the baby kangaroo into going to a tailgate party – for real! He doesn’t like football and doesn’t get the whole tailgating thing. I’m, like, free beer, food and good company – what’s not to like?


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These peeps like to party!

The peer pressure worked. Well, that and the fact that I wouldn’t give him any of the brownies I made unless he went to the tailgate party. (Of course, his mom asked if they were Alice B. Toklas brownies.) It was pretty awesome, especially since the Sweetwater truck was parked nearby – FREE BEER!! We also had blackened fish, fried fish, cole slaw, hushpuppies and spinach salad to go with the beer, so it was all good.


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He's cookin' with gas!

Well, that is until the baby kangaroo admitted that he didn’t like football and the rest of the tailgating gang started calling him a Commie. Good times.

Besides tailgating, my favorite part of homecoming was, in fact, coming home and warming up next to a fire with a cup of cocoa and a big bunny. Hurray for cooler weather!